When your high schooler was in middle school, there’s a good chance their biggest motivator was acceptance. They moved in a herd, made decisions as a group, and desperately wanted to fit in. While some of that is still true, your high schooler is changing and before long, his or her biggest motivator will be something new, something that may make you a little nervous, something you may even be tempted to resist: Freedom
That’s why one of the most important things we can do is MOBILIZE THEIR POTENTIAL. In other words, we want to give them something to do, not just a list of things to stay away from. We want to give them opportunities to collaborate with the family, serve the community and discover how God has uniquely wired them to influence the world around them.
One of the best places for your ninth grader to find support a this age is in a church small group. Engaging in a group with similar values and a trusted adult in the mix is always a great way for a ninth grader to find a place to belong. So get to know their small group leader, invite the group over for an outing or a movie night and make it a priority to show up every week and, so those relationships can grow deeper this year.
The thing to remember most about this year is that they still need you. No one has more influence on their spiritual lives than their parents and no one knows their story better than a parent. They need mom and dad even if they pretend like they don’t.
Read more at: https://theparentcue.org/what-to-expect-in-ninth-grade/